Before you start prematurely firing off punchlines about firing off prematurely, noโฆ the four words arenโt: โSorry, this never happens.โ Although what you should say during sex directly involves your actions just the same โ at least according to prolific Doctor of Human Sexuality and practicing sex therapist, Emily Morse.
So whatโs this magic phrase thatโs supposedly the key to unlocking sexual success? Believe it or not, itโs as simple as: โDo you like this?โ
โIn my opinion, one of the hottest things ever is when a partner asks, โDo you like this?'โ reveals Dr Morse of Sex With Emily podcast fame.
โSome of us expect our partners to intuitively known our sexual wants, but thatโs rarely possible. Checking in during sex and letting your partner know when theyโre doing something right leads to more pleasure, a deeper connection and better communication in other areas of your life.โ
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What you should say during sex, however, is just one piece of the carnal puzzle. As Dr Morse elaborates in a recent interview, there are other steps you can take to elevate an orgasmโs status from good to great.
Hereโs what the good doctor has prescribed, which can apply to both genders:
- Get comfortable with masturbation
โDr. Morse says self-pleasure is the best time to make sure you understand your body and to help you figure out what you like and what you want. Once you learn more about what you enjoy, you will have an easier time replicating the effect with a partner who makes you feel safe.โ - Always make time for foreplay
โForeplay is a requirement, not a suggestion. When you engage in foreplay before the main event, you bring in extra blood flow and sensitivity, and you will feel a bigger sense of release in the end.โ - Experiment with edging
โDr. Morse says that edging, or โcoming right up to the edge of your orgasm, backing off, and repeating,โ can be done on your own or with a partner. It builds up a lot of sexual energy and can feel very explosive when finally released.โ - Donโt skip the lubricant
โ'[Women] can be very turned on and not wet, or we can be very wet and not turned on,โ says Dr Morse. When you add lube to the equation, you have guaranteed wetness, which she adds can contribute to a great, not just good orgasm.โ
And now you know.
Now check out our interview with the king himself โ Johnny Sins โ and his tips for fighting premature ejaculation here. Or maybe youโd prefer to read our other interviews with the equally iconic Lana Rhoades here and Sasha Grey here.
